I'm trying to decide who we will tell about the IVF. At this point my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law, my best friend and a few close work friends know. We haven't even told T's parents yet although they knew we were doing the IUI's. I struggle with it because on one hand, I like people to know and understand what we are going through but I also don't want everyone constantly asking me how we are doing and when things are starting. I'm also concerned that IVF is not a "legitimate illness" that I can take sick time off for. I don't have enough vacation time to use and really, it is medical procedures so why shouldn't I be able to take "sick time" for them? Dr. N told me to take a week off after the retrieval to recover and be available for a 5 day transfer plus a few days to relax after that. Makes sense to me! I'm not sure I will tell my supervisor and then just get a note from my family doctor saying that I need the time off. Although I'm sure she would be totally supportive, it's the manager above her that could make my life difficult if she finds out. Kind of a dilemma as up until now I've been open with my supervisor about all of this. I just don't want to get screwed over and end up on un-paid leave when I have tons of paid sick hours I could use. I guess I have a bit of time to figure it out!
We went to visit my grandma yesterday (she is the only surviving grandparent between T and I!) and it was so great. She lives about an hour from us so I don't see her too much although I really should make a point of going out there more. She is such a sweet and generous woman. It makes me sad to think that there is a strong possibility that she will not be alive by the time we have a baby as her health is failing. I am sad that our child(ren) will likely never know her. Some of my best memories are from at her farm when I was young, playing in the barn, walking in the forest behind her property and eating her delicious baking. We haven't told her of our struggles as she gets really emotional these days but I'm guessing she suspects that we are having trouble conceiving. Man oh man I hope this IVF works! I'd just love to have one picture of her holding our baby!
On a more positive note, I had my TSH and Prolactin levels drawn again as they were "borderline" last time and this time they are completely normal. Yeah! One less thing to worry about.